December 11 to 13, 2026 · 3-Day Online Retreat

From Rupture to Repair

Turn your hardest conversations into your deepest connectionFacilitated by Christian Pankhurst, founder of Heart iQ.
Live each day3 PM to 10 PM Amsterdam time (CET)9 AM to 4 PM New York time (ET)6 AM to 1 PM Los Angeles time (PT)
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$197 for all three days. One seat covers you and your partner at home. Replays included. Full refund before day two.

Watch a real Heart iQ retreat unfold, practise from home with live support, and join Christian for a live Q&A each day. The retreat footage was filmed as it happened. The moderation, support and Q&A happen live with you.

Every relationship ruptures. The ones that deepen learn how to repair.

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“I came expecting another webinar. What I got was an experience that stayed in my body for days. I signed up for Heart iQ Mastery that same evening.”

Anna, Amsterdam, NL

Christian Pankhurst facilitating a live Heart iQ session
What Is the Heart iQ Experience?

A Real Retreat, Opened to Everyone

Most of us were never taught what to do when contact breaks. A hard conversation goes wrong, someone shuts down, and the distance quietly becomes the relationship. Understanding why it happens is often not enough to change what happens in your body when the moment arrives. Here, you watch repair happen and practise it in your own body.

So we opened the doors of an actual retreat. Nothing in this footage was staged for a camera: the retreat happened, we filmed it, and the people in it forgot the cameras within the first hour. Over three days you will watch real people and real couples move from rupture into full repair, and you will do every practice with them, guided live, from wherever you are.

A moderation team is in the room with you throughout, and Christian is live every day for the Q&A. You will leave with tools you can use in your very next difficult conversation.

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The Three Days

From Rupture to Repair, One Day at a Time

Each day runs 3 PM to around 10 PM Amsterdam time (CET), 9 AM to 4 PM New York time (ET), and 6 AM to 1 PM Los Angeles time (PT), with proper breaks, live moderation, and a daily live Q&A with Christian.

Day 1

Friday, December 11

3 PM to 10 PM Amsterdam time (CET)9 AM to 4 PM New York time (ET)6 AM to 1 PM Los Angeles time (PT)

Where You Close

The anatomy of rupture

Rupture starts in the body before it reaches the conversation. You'll learn to feel the precise moment contact breaks in you: the bracing, the leaving, the managing. The day builds your capacity to stay with what is actually happening.

Day 2

Saturday, December 12

3 PM to 10 PM Amsterdam time (CET)9 AM to 4 PM New York time (ET)6 AM to 1 PM Los Angeles time (PT)

The Difficult Conversation

Rupture, met live

Watch real couples meet real conflict and see what reopens contact when words stop working. You'll practise how to speak so defences can soften, and how to listen underneath the words. Come alone or practise with your partner. One seat covers you both.

Day 3

Sunday, December 13

3 PM to 10 PM Amsterdam time (CET)9 AM to 4 PM New York time (ET)6 AM to 1 PM Los Angeles time (PT)

Full Repair

What completion feels like

Repair is more than an apology. It is a felt event that completes in the body. On the final day, you watch that completion happen in community and practise returning to contact without abandoning yourself.

How Each Day Flows

Two Main Sessions and a Live Q&A

3:00 to 5:30 PMSession One9:00 to 11:30 AM New York
6:00 to 8:30 AM Los Angeles
5:30 to 6:30 PMOff-Screen Meal Break11:30 AM to 12:30 PM New York
8:30 to 9:30 AM Los Angeles
6:30 to 9:00 PMSession Two12:30 to 3:00 PM New York
9:30 AM to 12:00 PM Los Angeles
9:00 to 10:00 PMLive Q&A with Christian3:00 to 4:00 PM New York
12:00 to 1:00 PM Los Angeles

Times above begin with Amsterdam time (CET). Each 2.5-hour main session also includes a 10-minute off-screen reset break.

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December 11 to 13 · Live Online

Join the Heart iQ Experience

Virtual Retreat · Three Days · $197

Your payment covers the full live weekend, daily Q&A and replays in your member hub afterwards. One seat covers you and your partner at home.

Is This Right for You?

Who the Heart iQ Experience Is For

This is for people who want to change what happens in the moment, not only understand it afterwards.

This Is for You If...

There is a conversation you keep not having, and you can feel what avoiding it is costing you.

You're in a relationship that's good, but not alive. The same argument keeps coming back wearing different clothes.

You've done a lot of inner work but still find yourself shutting down in the moments that matter most.

You hold space for others and want to feel how rupture and repair are actually held in a room.

You want to be more present with the people you love, starting with yourself.

This May Not Be Right for You If...

You're looking for a quick fix. This work asks you to slow down, notice what is happening, and practise.

You want a theory-led course you can take at a distance. Heart iQ is a somatic, body-based practice.

You need something that can run in the background. The live practices work best when you can give them your attention.

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Christian Pankhurst
Meet Your Facilitator

Christian Pankhurst

Before I could walk this path with others, I had to walk it myself.

I'm Christian Pankhurst, founder of Heart iQ, and I'll be accompanying you through this Experience. My early life was shaped by intensity and a lack of safety, experiences that later showed up as anxiety, panic, and a deep sense of inner disconnection.

What began as a personal search for relief slowly became a deeper inquiry into what helps us stay open, present, and human in connection, especially when things get challenging. Over the last 20 years, that inquiry has evolved into Heart iQ, a body-based, relational approach now practised by individuals, couples, and groups around the world.

The work draws from both Eastern and Western traditions, but its heart is simple: creating spaces where people feel safe enough to be real, and supported enough to open.

I don't see myself as someone who fixes or heals others. My role is to help create the conditions where your own intelligence, capacity, and goodness can emerge.

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What People Say

Real Words from Real People

“This work has been paramount in helping me find this amazing relationship. My experience in Heart iQ helped my nervous system recognise my partner when he showed up.”

Sarah, London, UK

“As guys, we don't know how to access our emotions. Heart iQ made it safe for me to go there, and it changed everything in my marriage.”

Marc, California, USA
Good to Know

Questions, Answered Honestly

Is it actually live?

The retreat footage is a rebroadcast of a real retreat, played in real time with live moderation throughout. The daily Q&A with Christian is fully live. So the material is real and unrepeatable, and the container around it is happening with you, in the moment.

What are the times where I live?

Each day runs 3 PM to around 10 PM Amsterdam time (CET), 9 AM to 4 PM New York time (ET), and 6 AM to 1 PM Los Angeles time (PT), with proper breaks built in. If your time zone makes the live hours hard, the replays exist for exactly that reason.

We are a couple. Do we need two seats?

No. One seat covers you and your partner watching and practising together at home. Day two is built for exactly that. You only need a second seat if you will be in two different places.

Do I need any experience with this work?

No. The room you are watching contained beginners too. Everything is explained as it happens, and the moderation team is there for exactly this.

Will I be on camera?

No. You are watching the room and practising from home. The live Q&A is where you can be seen and ask questions, and being on camera there is your choice.

What if I miss a session?

Replays of each day are available in your member hub after the live session, so you can catch up in your own time zone. They remain in the hub after the weekend, and there is no fixed expiry date on your programme access.

What if I change my mind?

Full refund any time before doors open on December 11. And if you join day one and feel this isn't for you, tell us before day two begins and we'll refund you in full. Write to [email protected] either way.

Where This Leads

The Heart iQ Experience stands on its own. Come for the three days, take the tools, and use them in your next difficult conversation.

For those who feel called to take this work deeper, Heart iQ Mastery builds on everything you will live here, and this autumn the rooms are real: Love, Relationships & You at New Eden (1 to 4 October) and in Colorado (5 to 8 November), and Accelerated Awakening in Colorado (16 to 22 November).

Learn more about Heart iQ Mastery →