Love, Relationships& You

The complete four-day training · Filmed live at New Eden

The whole four days, exactly as it happened.

Fifteen sessions and 23 hours from a live Love, Relationships & You training at New Eden. You get the teaching and the guided practices, and you also get the moments when the work had to meet a real human being in front of everybody. Watch it at your own pace inside the Heart iQ Hub.

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01I’m learning on my ownFollow your own pace, work with what you notice in your body, and let the circle show you your own patterns.You are here 02We’re doing it togetherTurn the replay into shared time at home, with pauses for practice, conversation and integration.View the together version →

A participant practising while the original live group looks on

The original training, uncut

This is the live training as it unfolded.

You receive the teaching, the questions, the guided practices and the moments when the material had to meet a real human being.

It was filmed as a livestream with a remote audience taking part, so the recordings were made for people watching from home rather than being a camera left at the back. Christian speaks to those watching throughout, and their questions are answered alongside the ones asked in the circle.

Nothing has been trimmed into a polished summary, which means you also see the pauses, the resistance and the parts that did not go smoothly. That is the point. It was filmed across four days at New Eden in 2023 and the work has not dated, because what happens between people has not changed.

15 original sessions23 hours complete runtime

The four-day curriculum

Follow the work in the order the circle received it.

Every title below comes from the complete session transcripts and the actual sequence of the 2023 training.

Day one

Come back to yourself before you reach for technique

Build the ground for everything that follows: open-heart availability, somatic awareness, conscious presence and a relationship that includes self, partner and tribe.

Intrinsic goodness, the overlay of unworthiness, and where the protection around it was formed
Somatic Tracking: sensation, impulse, and what changes when you follow what is true
The four levels of relating: yourself, the two of you, brothers and sisters, and tribe
Asking for what you need, and the harder skill of receiving it

Day two

Know whether the relationship needs repair, nourishment or expansion

Learn to recognise the direction a relationship needs before the conversation begins, then practise moving charge with consent and enough structure to stay connected.

The Meta Check-In, and knowing whether to expand, nourish or repair before you speak
Following the breadcrumbs out of freeze by naming each impulse as it arrives
The complete Uncontained Truth ritual, from invitation and consent through to closure
Meeting anger and force without letting them become attack
The praise practice, and what happens when two people grow at different speeds

Day three

Turn rupture into a real reconnection

Move from raw charge into clear words. Separate fact from story, own the protection you bring, hear impact and stay curious enough for a different meeting to become possible.

Separating fact from story, and primary feelings from interpretation
The Reconnection Ritual for sharing a difficult truth without losing the relationship
S.T.U.A.R.T, the protective perimeter, and the strategies that run off it
Sharing a withhold, hearing impact, and the trigger track underneath it
Ownership and counter-ownership, which is how shame stops sitting on one person
The Polarity Lab: why harmony and charge work against each other, and how to bring charge back

Day four

Let the group show you what relationship can hold

Watch the teaching become lived process. The final day brings the tools into the circle, where heartbreak, remorse, belonging and corrective experience are met in real time.

Live processes with real heartbreak, rage and grief, held in front of everybody
Why brotherhood and sisterhood take the weight a partner was never meant to carry
Corrective experience in the circle, and staying when the old move is to leave

“Whenever you share truth, the body between you will lighten.”

Christian Pankhurst, Day Two

What you come away holding

Twelve named practices, taught and then demonstrated.

Nothing here is left as an idea. Each practice is defined, shown in the circle with real people and then practised. Select any card to see what it is for.

01Somatic Tracking

Learn to notice the precise sensations beneath a feeling, so you can stay with what the body is actually communicating instead of getting lost in the story around it.

02Following the breadcrumbs

Follow each small bodily impulse as it appears, without forcing the next step, and discover what helps the heart and body begin to open.

03The Meta Check-In

Pause and name whether you need expansion, nourishment or repair, giving the other person a clear way to understand how to meet you.

04The Uncontained Truth ritual

A structured way to give voice and movement to uncensored truth, while keeping the intensity held inside consent and relationship.

05Consent, invitation and closure for intense practices

Learn how to invite a charged practice, agree what is welcome, track what is needed and bring the experience to a complete close.

06The praise practice

Practise offering and receiving specific appreciation, allowing the nourishment of being seen to land rather than dismissing or deflecting it.

07The Reconnection Ritual

A guided process for sharing what hurt or created distance in a way the other person can receive, so contact can be rebuilt.

08Sharing a withhold

Speak what has been held back, hear its impact and stay present long enough to discover what the unspoken truth has been protecting.

09The trigger track

Trace a present reaction through sensation, meaning and earlier experience, so the person in front of you is no longer carrying the full weight of the past.

10Ownership and counter-ownership

Each person explores their contribution to a relational dynamic, bringing balance and shared responsibility without collapsing into blame.

11Empathic reflection and asking where the other is right

Reflect what you heard and then genuinely explore the part of the other person's experience that may be true, even when it is difficult to hear.

12Polarity, harmony and the return of charge

Explore how constant harmony can flatten attraction, and how leadership, following and clear consent can allow relational charge to return.

What you will actually watch

The teaching is the frame. These are the moments inside it.

Across the four days the work stops being an idea and starts happening to somebody. These are four of the moments you sit in on.

A participant tells Christian, in front of the whole circle, that he cannot accept the claim that both people always contribute to a rupture. Christian concedes the point on the spot and adjusts the teaching, which tells you a great deal about how these four days are held.

A man whose partner of three and a half years ended it without explanation is offered the choice of being soothed, doing repair, or stretching into something new. Watch what Christian asks him to add to his rage so that it becomes grief rather than blame.

A woman in a live demonstration discovers she is in freeze while standing in front of somebody she completely trusts. She comes out of it by naming each small impulse aloud until her body starts moving on its own.

A woman traces a present-day trigger back to her father arriving home from work with nothing left to receive her with. The skill being taught is how to stay connected to your own goodness while a memory like that is surfacing.

Meet Z, your private Heart iQ coach

The replay ends. The conversation does not have to.

Z is an AI-powered coach trained on the Heart iQ body of work: years of retreat recordings and teaching, Christian Pankhurst’s book Insights to Intimacy, and the curriculum from Heart iQ’s online programmes.

It understands the language and practices in this replay, so you can ask about a teaching you have just watched, deepen your understanding or explore what a particular moment brought up for you.

Text or voiceTalk naturally in the way that feels easiest.

Your own languageZ can understand and respond in any language.

Guided practicesAsk Z to guide you through a Heart iQ practice at home.

Feedback and reflectionExplore what happened and hear what may help next.

Your purchase includes 90 days with Z from enrolment.

A voice conversation with Z, the AI-powered Heart iQ coach, inside the mobile app

A participant smiling inside a Heart iQ circle

Coming to this on your own

Watching alone gives you something the participants did not have.

The original four days were built as a group because relationship patterns only become visible in contact. Watching the replay lets you learn from that field with none of the pressure of being seen, which means you can stay with what surfaces for as long as you need.

Notice what happens in your own body as people speak, protect, risk, receive and repair. The moment you want to judge, rescue, withdraw or move closer is already your curriculum.

You can pause after any session, bring what surfaced to Z, and return when you have space for the next layer.

Make it your own retreat

The replay can move at the speed your system can use.

Choose your pace

Treat each day as a chapter. Watch one session, stop when your body has had enough, and return when you are ready.

Practise from your own experience

Track sensation, impulse, story and need as the circle works. You do not need somebody beside you to notice how relationship lives in your body.

Use the circle as your mirror

Notice who you identify with and who activates you, and let that tell you where your own work is.

Bring questions to Z

Your 90 days with Z give you somewhere private to reflect and locate the practice that fits what the replay has opened.

A participant following an embodied Heart iQ practice

Guided embodiment with Sylvie

Press play and let your body join the training.

This replay includes guided embodiment experiences led by Sylvie Fröhlicher. She gives you clear, spoken invitations you can follow from home, whether you are watching alone or sitting beside someone you love.

You will be guided to notice sensation before interpretation, follow an impulse slowly, and discover what opens or closes you. Sylvie also leads the Meta Check-In, helping you recognise whether the relationship needs repair, nourishment or space to expand before you begin the conversation.

You do not need to perform the practice or get it right. You can pause, keep your eyes open, stay seated, or watch the first time and return when your body is ready to take part.

Somatic Tracking and body-led awareness
The Meta Check-In for clearer relational contact
Consent-based pauses and practices you can repeat

Your guides through the replay

Christian teaches the maps and works with participants directly, while Sylvie leads the embodied practices you can follow from home.

Meet your teacher

Christian Pankhurst

He did not come to this work because he was good at relationships.

Christian Pankhurst is the founder of Heart iQ and the lead teacher throughout this four-day replay.

He came to this work through his own nervous system first. A childhood shaped by intensity and a lack of safety left him with anxiety and a deep sense of disconnection. What began as a search for relief became a lifelong study of what lets a person stay open and present in connection, especially when it gets hard.

Christian trained first in the sciences, with a degree in Human Sciences and Chiropractic, and then as a facilitator in Neale Donald Walsch's Leadership Education Program, where he was mentored as his protégé. Around twenty-five years ago he began the work that became Heart iQ, a structured and embodied approach to relating that is now practised and taught around the world.

He has led hundreds of retreats and trainings since 2002, with people travelling from more than thirty countries to sit in circle with Heart iQ. In 2016 he bought New Eden, a custom retreat centre on its own land in the Frisian countryside. It moved this work out of hotel venues and into a home built for it.

Christian does not see his role as fixing or healing anyone. His work is to create the conditions where another person's own capacity and goodness can finally emerge.

“Christian Pankhurst knows how to articulate these messages as well as, if not better than I can. He is a profound source of wisdom and depth.”

Neale Donald WalschNew York Times best-selling author of Conversations with God

Meet your practice guide

Sylvie Fröhlicher

Embodied practice begins before the story.

Sylvie Fröhlicher is an integrative coach and Heart iQ certified circle facilitator. Her work brings the body into conversations that usually happen only in the mind, helping people notice what is present before the story takes over.

She has spent more than six years working one-to-one with clients and facilitating transformational groups. Her approach is rooted in Integrative Body Psychotherapy and informed by somatic awareness, positive psychology, mediation, Nonviolent Communication and advanced group facilitation.

She also helps train coaches at the IBP Institute in Switzerland and collaborates with Heart iQ on events and retreats. In this replay, Sylvie guides the embodied practices, helping sensation, movement and the unspoken become available before the story takes over.

Three-year Integrative Coaching training, IBP Institute
Two-year Circle Facilitation and Group Dynamics training, Heart iQ Academy
Certificate in Positive Psychology with Dr Tal Ben-Shahar
MA, University of Zurich, focused on Political Science, Economics and Psychology

From people inside LRY

What people carried home

“I arrived completely closed down. By the end of the first day, something in me had cracked open that no amount of therapy had ever reached. Heart iQ works on a level I did not even know existed.”

KamilaLRY participant

“We shared things with each other we had never shared in seventeen years of marriage. We finally felt met.”

AndreaLRY participant

“As guys, we do not know how to access our emotions. Heart iQ made it safe for me to go there, and it changed everything in my marriage.”

MarcCalifornia

The Love, Relationships and You course shown across three Heart iQ Hub screens

Your private course space

Everything opens the moment you enrol, and it stays where you left it.

Your purchase opens one private course with four day-chapters and all fifteen sessions, and your progress carries across the web Hub and the Heart iQ app so you can stop on one device and continue on another.

All four days and fifteen replay sessions
23 hours of original training footage
Lifetime access to the complete replay
90 days with Z, the private Heart iQ guide, for questions between sessions

Get the Complete Replay

Your replay payment becomes live LRY credit

Start with the replay. Apply the full price towards live LRY.

The live Love, Relationships & You training starts at a minimum contribution of €500 per person in the Netherlands or US$500 in Colorado, before travel and accommodation. This complete replay gives you all 23 hours with lifetime access for a much smaller first step.

Book a live LRY within 12 months of buying the replay and the full amount you paid for the replay can be applied as credit towards your live LRY contribution.

Full replay payment credited12 months to use itLifetime replay access remains yours

Two participants meeting each other in the centre of a Love, Relationships and You circle

When watching is no longer enough

The replay shows you the work. The live training does it with you.

Everything in these four days was filmed in a circle of people who were being met in real time. You can learn the maps from the footage, and many people do. What the footage cannot give you is the experience of a circle turning towards you and finding out that you can be received exactly as you are.

Love, Relationships & You runs Thursday to Sunday across four calendar days. The Netherlands training is at New Eden from 1 to 4 October 2026, and the Colorado training is at Casa Sagrada from 5 to 8 November 2026. Christian teaches across all four days himself.

The live training starts at a minimum contribution of €500 per person in the Netherlands or US$500 in Colorado, before travel and accommodation. If you attend within the next 12 months, the full amount you paid for this replay can be applied as credit.

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Practical answers

Before you enrol

Do I need a partner to do this?

No. You can watch alone and work directly with your own sensations, patterns and responses. The live demonstrations let you learn from the field, and Z gives you somewhere private to continue reflecting between sessions.

Is this a new live training?

No. This is the complete replay of the four-day Love, Relationships & You training filmed live at New Eden in 2023. You receive all fifteen sessions inside the Heart iQ Hub.

Are the replay and live training both four days?

Yes. Both run from Thursday to Sunday, so each spans four calendar days and contains three full days of training time. There is no difference in how their duration is described.

How long do I have access?

You keep lifetime access to all fifteen replay sessions inside the Heart iQ Hub. There is no expiry date on the replay. Your included access to Z runs for 90 days from enrolment.

How does the live LRY credit work?

The full amount you pay for this replay can be applied as credit towards one live Love, Relationships & You training booked within 12 months of your replay purchase. The live training starts at a minimum contribution of €500 per person in the Netherlands or US$500 in Colorado, before travel and accommodation.

Do I need to watch all 23 hours at once?

No. The replay is organised into four day-chapters and fifteen separate sessions. You can stop after any session and continue from the same place in the app or web Hub.

What is Z?

Z is the private Heart iQ guide inside the Hub and app. You have 90 days of access from enrolment, so you can ask questions, reflect on what a session brings up and find the relevant Heart iQ practice between videos.

What is the 14-day guarantee?

Start the complete replay and see how the work lands. If it is not right for you, email connect@heartiq.org within 14 days of purchase and Heart iQ will refund your payment in full.

Is this therapy?

No. It is relational education and guided practice. The recordings include real participants and emotionally intense moments. You remain responsible for your pace and boundaries, including whether a practice is appropriate for you.

How does this lead into the live training?

The replay gives you the maps, language and a close view of the work. The live Love, Relationships & You training adds partners and the full group field, with moment-by-moment facilitation around what is happening for you.

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