Heart iQ retreat circle experience
A Heart iQ Live Training

Love, Relationships
& You

A 3-day live training in the art of heart intelligent relating. Whether you come single, with your partner, or simply hungry for real connection, you'll leave relating from a deeper, truer place with yourself and everyone in your life.

"The greatest gift you can give to another is to become a fully healthy you."

  • 3 full days of live Heart iQ training
  • Led by Christian Pankhurst, founder of Heart iQ
  • Personal practice, relational work & live group experiences
  • Two locations: Netherlands & Colorado
  • Contribution-based pricing, designed to lower the barrier

3 full days of live training • Led by Christian Pankhurst • Netherlands & Colorado • Contribution-based pricing

New Eden, Netherlands
October 1 – 4, 2026
Europe
Casa Sagrada, Colorado
November 5 – 8, 2026
United States
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★★★★★ Trusted by 5,000+ people across 30+ countries
“A profound source of wisdom and depth.” – Neale Donald Walsch, NY Times best-selling author
Who's coming?
Just me My partner & me

Coming single, or joining on your own? You're in the right place. Bringing your partner? See the couples experience.

"Practical skills to live more joyful lives. This event is heart-centered, heart-led and heart-opening. You will laugh. You will cry. But most of all you will deepen."
– Priya Mahtani, Heart iQ Coach
"I started to dare to be 100% authentic again. I've done years of therapy, and nothing touched what Heart iQ reached in just a few days."
– Mascha, Netherlands
"As guys, we don't know how to access our emotions. Heart iQ made it safe for me to go there, and it changed everything in my marriage."
– Marc, California
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The Invitation

Step Into a New Paradigm of Love & Connection

Something deeper is calling you. A longing for connection that goes beyond surface-level conversation. For relationships that feel truly alive. Whether you're single, in a partnership, or simply craving authentic tribe, these three days are an invitation to experience what becomes possible when your heart leads the way.

What's Really Going On

All Trauma Was Created in Relationship

The patterns that keep you stuck, such as the walls, the withdrawing, and the arguments that go in circles, didn't begin in your current relationships. They began in your earliest ones. And if left unattended, they create dissonance, disconnection, and a quiet loneliness that no amount of “working on yourself” alone can resolve. The truth is: what was wounded in relationship needs relationship to heal.

The Homecoming

Remember What Your Heart Already Knows

Heart iQ returns you to something you've always known. Through embodied practice, guided relational work, and the transformative power of authentic connection, you'll drop beneath the surface and into the core truth of who you are. These three days give you the space, the tribe, and the lived experience to create lasting shifts that integrate into the fabric of your daily life and every relationship in it.

Who Is It For

This Training Is for You If…

Singles

You're ready for deeper self-connection. You want to understand your own patterns, open your heart fully, and attract authentic love from a place of wholeness rather than need. This is a relational training; most participants come on their own.

Couples

You're committed to each other and want tools to communicate from the heart, not just the head. Whether you're thriving and want to go deeper, or navigating challenges and want to reconnect, Heart iQ gives you a shared language that transforms how you relate.

Community Seekers

You're craving deep friendships, meaningful tribe, and the experience of being truly seen and held by others. You know that growth happens fastest in community, and you're ready to experience what authentic community actually feels like.

What You'll Learn

Self Connection Practices

Over three days, you'll be guided through a progressive series of personal, relational and group practices designed to deepen your connection to yourself, others, and life itself.

01

See the Pattern Before It Runs You

Gain insight into resistance to joy, the thoughts and judgments keeping you from loving what is alive in you, and the hidden patterns running your relationships.

02

Stay Open When You'd Normally Shut Down

Expand the bandwidth you have available to stay connected before being triggered into collapse, fight, or flight. Build the nervous system resilience to hold more.

03

Meet the Moment With an Open Heart

An integrated practice of breath, grounding, and energetically holding space, so you can meet each moment fully present and fully yourself.

04

Know What's Really Driving You

Become aware of multiple layers of your experience, including defense mechanisms, shadows, and blind spots, and learn to navigate them with compassion.

05

Come Back Into Your Body

Bring awareness into your body. Deepen your connection to movement, breath, sound and touch as gateways to authentic self-expression.

06

Release What You've Been Carrying

Cleanse your emotional and energetic bodies from the toxic buildup of repressed pain, unexpressed grief, and held tension that blocks your aliveness.

07

Navigate Triggers Without Losing Yourself

Learn to hold all parts of yourself in love and navigate triggers more effectively, without shutting down or acting out.

What You'll Learn

Relational & Group Practices

Relational

Heart Intelligent Relating

Learn to communicate what is real rather than what is right. Drop the masks, the performance, and the people-pleasing, and meet others from your genuine heart.

Relational

End the Arguments That Go in Circles

Navigate disagreements while staying connected to your heart. Avoidance erodes intimacy faster than honest conflict ever will. Learn to stay open when the stakes feel highest.

Relational

Feel Safe Enough to Be Close

Rebuild trust and open to deeper intimacy safely. Whether with a partner, a friend, or yourself, intimacy requires a felt sense of safety that you can learn to create.

Relational

Read What's Beneath the Words

Feel and work with the energy between you and others. Learn to read the invisible dynamics in any relationship and bring consciousness to what's really happening beneath the words.

Group

Heart iQ Circle Work

Experience the power of doing your inner work held by a whole room. When the group gathers around one person's process, your heart finally gets to be witnessed.

Group

Collective Healing

Witness how individual healing ripples through the group. When one person has the courage to go deep, everyone in the circle receives the gift of that opening.

Group

We Are Each Other's Medicine

The circle as a living, breathing organism of mutual support. Your presence, your story, and your heart are the medicine that others need, just as theirs is yours.

"I took away that it can be joyful to work on your stuff. Not heavy. Joyful. I'm taking home a clear and constant heart, and tools to make a good relationship great."
– Heart iQ Graduate
Heart iQ, group held on the floor
Heart iQ, women resting, being held
Heart iQ, standing circle connection
Heart iQ, couple process with Christian
Real Stories

Hear It From Those Who've Lived It

"One of the most profound personal development experiences in eighteen years."
– Mathias
"It's like running next to your train your whole life and then finally getting on it."
– LRY Graduate
"We shared things with each other we'd never shared in seventeen years of marriage."
– Andrea
What Is Heart iQ?

Learn the Language of the Heart

Love, Relationships & You is Heart iQ's signature training and a groundbreaking journey into personal practice, relational skill, and the transformative power of authentic connection.

Our approach is holistic: a blend of challenging and deeply rejuvenating experiences. It's about diving into the essence of your being, fully inhabiting your body to unearth your truest expression. We go to the depths, seeking the core truths of how you relate to yourself and others.

You'll upgrade your relationship toolkit with robust communication skills and embodied connection practices. You'll nourish and awaken parts of yourself that have been dormant. And you'll experience the power of tribe, the nourishing, supportive feeling of being held by people who can feel you in ways you may not even be able to feel yourself.

Whether you're single, in a partnership, or simply craving authentic community, this training meets you exactly where you are. The practices adapt to your unique rhythm, creating lasting shifts that seamlessly integrate into the fabric of your daily life.

Heart iQ, man leaning back in surrender, held by the circle

Three minutes from Christian on what this work is, and why it exists.

Christian Pankhurst teaching at Heart iQ retreat
"When we communicate the real thing instead of the right thing, we end up communicating our authentic essence and heart."
– Christian Pankhurst
Christian Pankhurst, Heart iQ founder and retreat facilitator
Your Facilitator

Christian Pankhurst

"Heart iQ is highly intuitive. It's a language you already know deep down, but to which you have lost access."

Christian is the founder of Heart iQ and the author of Insights to Intimacy. Over the past 20+ years, he has developed a multi-level communication system that integrates words, body language, energy, emotions, and spirit. It is a language of the heart that transforms how humans relate to themselves, each other, and the world.

Through direct observation of thousands of group interactions during his retreats across 30+ countries, Christian began to see the hidden patterns of connection and conflict that show up in every kind of relationship. He translated these dynamics into a practical, embodied language that anyone can learn.

His work has touched 5,000+ lives, and these three days are the distilled essence of everything he teaches: the foundational training for anyone who wants to relate more authentically.

"Christian Pankhurst knows how to articulate these messages as well as, if not better than I can. He is a profound source of wisdom and depth."
– Neale Donald Walsch, NY Times Best-Selling Author
Your Co-Facilitators

Meet the Team

Stephanie Fabela

Stephanie Fabela

Co-Facilitator, Europe

Stephanie brings over two decades of study in somatic healing, energy work, and personal development. One of the first Heart iQ graduates in 2012, she served as Director of Programs and Education and continues to train and mentor facilitators as a core part of the team. She brings a wise, elder presence to the circle, embodying tribal leadership and offering deep, intuitive guidance to the community.

Sumir

Sumir

Co-Facilitator, United States

Sumir is a Certified Heart iQ Facilitator and Founder of The Golden Path. Immersed in Heart iQ work since 2014, she was one of the lead teachers of our signature Heart iQ Mastery home study program and facilitates men's and women's events. Her facilitation style emphasises a fierce, tender presence and an unwavering, steady holding.

Your Investment Includes

What's Included

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3 Full Days of Live Training

Deep immersion in Heart iQ practices, including personal practice, relational work, embodiment, and live whole-group experiences guided by Christian and the team.

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All Meals Included

Your meal package for all three days is included in your contribution at both locations, so you can stay present without worrying about food.

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Live Teaching From Christian

Christian facilitates all three days himself at both locations, joined by the Heart iQ facilitation team.

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A Room Built for Real Work

Capped at 50 participants at New Eden and 100 at Casa Sagrada. Seminar-style teaching, personal practice, and relational work, held by Christian and a trained facilitation team. No surface-level work.

Please note: All meals are included in your contribution at both locations. Accommodation is separate: at New Eden (Netherlands) you add your room (single, shared, or camping) as part of the same booking, and at Casa Sagrada (Colorado) accommodation is not available at the venue, with hotels and Airbnbs nearby in Loveland.

Two Locations, One Body of Work

Choose Your Location

Both events are facilitated by Christian Pankhurst and offer the same depth of Heart iQ teaching and practice. Choose the location that calls to you.

Heart iQ circle at New Eden, Netherlands
Europe

New Eden, Netherlands

October 1 – 4, 2026
  • 3 full days of live Heart iQ training
  • Capped at 50 participants
  • All meals included (meal package)
  • Add your accommodation at the venue (single room, shared room, or camping) during booking
  • Contribution: from €500 EUR (you choose the amount)
Heart iQ retreat at Casa Sagrada, Christian facilitating in the venue
United States

Casa Sagrada, Loveland, Colorado

November 5 – 8, 2026
  • 3 full days of live Heart iQ training
  • All meals included (meal package)
  • Capped at 100 participants
  • Accommodation is not available at the venue. Hotels and Airbnbs are available nearby in Loveland, Colorado
  • Contribution: from $500 USD (you choose the amount)
The Contribution Model

Pay From Where You Are

We price this training on a sliding scale because we would rather have the right people in the room than the right number on a ticket. The floor is €500/$500, and those with more resources are invited to contribute above it. Every contribution above the floor directly funds a lower doorway for someone else.

An Honest Floor

€500/$500 is the minimum that makes the training sustainable to run, and it includes all your meals for the three days. If the floor is what you can meet, you are as welcome in the room as anyone.

A Sincere Self-Assessment

During booking you choose your exact amount, guided by honest prompts about income, obligations, savings, and season of life. Give from capacity, never from strain.

Complete Trust

Whatever you choose, you are welcome. We trust your choice and no one will ever question it. This is our way of moving toward a gift-based economy.

You set your contribution as part of booking. Meals are included, and at New Eden you can add your accommodation in the same flow.

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Heart iQ retreat, joyful expression
Heart iQ participants, hand on heart, presence
Heart iQ, tender embrace
Heart iQ, fierce presence
What People Say

Voices from the Heart

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We came as a couple married 25 years, thinking we knew everything about each other. We left knowing we'd barely scratched the surface. Heart iQ gave us a way to truly hear each other, not just the words, but what lives underneath them.
Judith & Graham Married 25 years
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I arrived completely closed down. By the end of the first day, something in me had cracked open that no amount of therapy had ever reached. Heart iQ works on a level I didn't even know existed.
Kamila
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As a man, I'd spent my whole life avoiding vulnerability. This retreat showed me that vulnerability isn't weakness. It's the gateway to everything I've been looking for in my relationships.
Chris Jones
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I came for my relationship and left with a completely new relationship to myself. The tools I learned at this retreat have become my daily practice. They've changed how I parent, how I love, and how I live.
Heather Rizzo
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The circle work was extraordinary. To be held so deeply by people I'd only just met restored my faith in humanity. I left knowing that real community is possible.
Jane Cormack
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Heart iQ is the missing piece. Everything I'd learned in books and courses clicked into place when I experienced it in my body, in circle, in real time. This is what transformation actually feels like.
Beverley Killian-Richardson
Questions & Answers

Frequently Asked

Do I need any previous Heart iQ experience? ▾

No. Love, Relationships & You is designed for both newcomers and experienced practitioners. Whether this is your first encounter with Heart iQ or you've been on the journey for years, the training meets you exactly where you are. Many people attend this as their entry point into Heart iQ.

Who is this training for? ▾

This training is for any human who wants to transform how they relate. Singles, couples, people in transition: the practices work on every kind of relationship, from your relationship with yourself to partners, family, friends, colleagues, and community. Most participants come on their own. Coming with your partner? There's a dedicated couples version of this page.

How does the contribution model work? ▾

We want the doorway into this work to be as wide as we can responsibly make it. The minimum contribution for the training is €500/$500 per person, and it includes your full meal package for the three days. Those who have the means are invited to contribute more. Contributions above the minimum directly support keeping the entry point lower for others. Accommodation is the only extra: at New Eden you add your room in the same booking, and in Colorado you arrange your own lodging nearby.

What about accommodation? ▾

Your meals are included at both locations. For New Eden (Netherlands), you add your accommodation at the venue (single room, shared room, or camping) as part of the same booking. For Casa Sagrada (Colorado), accommodation is not available at the venue. You will need to book a hotel or Airbnb nearby in Loveland. We will send recommendations after registration.

What's the daily schedule like? ▾

Each day typically runs from morning to evening with breaks for meals and integration. You'll move through a blend of live teaching, personal practice, relational exercises in pairs and small groups, embodiment, and whole-group experiences. The schedule is held with care, intense enough to create real transformation and spacious enough to process and integrate.

Can I attend both locations? ▾

Yes! Each training is a complete experience, and attending both would deepen your practice significantly. Each location carries its own energy. If you'd like to attend both, simply register for each one separately.

I'm introverted. Will I be pushed to share or perform? ▾

No. Everything at a Heart iQ event is invitational and consent-based. You choose how far you go, every time. Much of the work happens in personal practice and in pairs, and plenty of participants describe themselves as introverts who were relieved to find they could move at their own pace. Being witnessed is powerful; being pushed is against everything we stand for.

What actually happens in the room? ▾

Think seminar-style workshop rather than talking circle. Christian teaches live, then you put it straight into practice: personal practices, relational exercises in pairs and small groups, and experiential sessions with the whole room. This is emotionally deep work, held with clear agreements, a trained facilitation team, and a published ethics & safety framework. It complements therapy well, though it is never a substitute for it.

Not ready to book? Start with the free Heart iQ Experience and taste the work from home.

Christian Pankhurst teaching at Heart iQ retreat
"Can we be all of ourselves, totally true and authentic, and still stay in connection? That is the work of love."
– Christian Pankhurst
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Pick the edition that fits you. The next page is where you choose your contribution and complete your booking.

Your Heart Already Knows

These three days are an invitation to come home to yourself, to your heart, and to the relationships that matter most. If you feel called, trust that.

October 1–4 · New Eden, the Netherlands  •  November 5–8 · Casa Sagrada, Colorado  •  from €500/$500

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Terms & Conditions

Payment Terms

Full payment is due at the time of registration. Your place is confirmed upon receipt of payment. All prices are listed in the currency of the event location (EUR for Netherlands, USD for Colorado).

What's Included

Your ticket includes full access to all three days of the training plus a meal package covering all meals during the event. Accommodation is not included: at New Eden (Netherlands) it can be added during booking, and at Casa Sagrada (Colorado) it must be arranged separately.

Cancellation & Refund Policy

  • 60+ days before the event: Full refund minus a 10% administration fee, issued as a credit voucher for any future Heart iQ event.
  • Within 60 days of the event: Non-refundable. Your ticket may be transferred to another person (see below).
  • No-shows: Non-refundable.

Ticket Transfers

If you are unable to attend, you may transfer your ticket to another person. Transfer requests must be submitted at least 7 days before the event and are subject to approval. Please contact us at [email protected] to arrange a transfer.

Participation & Conduct

Heart iQ reserves the right to deny admission or remove any participant whose behaviour is disruptive, unsafe, or in violation of the event agreements. No refund will be issued in such cases.

By attending, you agree to:

  • Be fully present and engaged during sessions
  • Respect the confidentiality of all participants
  • Maintain consent-based interaction at all times
  • Refrain from alcohol and recreational substances during the event
  • Follow the guidance of the facilitation team
  • Take responsibility for your own physical and emotional wellbeing

Consent & Release

This event is educational and experiential in nature. It is not therapy, medical treatment, or a substitute for professional mental health support. Participation is entirely voluntary. You are free to step back from any exercise at any time.

By registering, you release and hold harmless Heart iQ Network LLC, its facilitators, staff, and affiliates from any and all liability, claims, or damages arising from your participation, except in cases of gross negligence.

Recording & Media

Heart iQ may photograph, film, or audio-record portions of the event for safety, training, and promotional purposes. By attending, you consent to the use of your likeness in Heart iQ media unless you notify us in writing before the event.

Force Majeure

In the event of circumstances beyond our control (natural disasters, pandemic restrictions, venue issues, etc.), Heart iQ reserves the right to reschedule, relocate, or move the event online. We strongly recommend purchasing travel insurance.

Governing Law

These terms are governed by the laws of the State of Colorado, USA (for Casa Sagrada events) or the laws of the Netherlands (for New Eden events).

By checking the box above, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agree to these terms.

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