Heart iQ retreat — a couple in a tender embrace
A Heart iQ Retreat for Couples

Love, Relationships
& You

A 3-day immersion in the art of heart intelligent relating, for couples ready to come closer. Build a shared language, move through what keeps you stuck, and remember why you chose each other.

"The work of love is learning to truly hear each other, not just the words, but what lives underneath."

  • 3 full days of Heart iQ immersion
  • Led by Christian Pankhurst, founder of Heart iQ
  • Circle work, embodiment & relational practices
  • Two locations: Netherlands & Colorado
  • Pay what feels right, from €500/$500

3 full days of immersion • Led by Christian Pankhurst • Netherlands & Colorado • From €500/$500

New Eden, Netherlands
October 1 – 4, 2026
Europe
Casa Sagrada, Colorado
November 5 – 8, 2026
United States
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★★★★★ Trusted by 5,000+ people across 30+ countries
Who's coming?
Just me My partner & me

This version is made for couples coming together. Coming single, or joining on your own? See the main retreat page.

"We shared things with each other we'd never shared in seventeen years of marriage. We finally felt met."
– Andrea
"We came married 25 years, thinking we knew everything about each other. We left knowing we'd barely scratched the surface, and with a way to truly hear each other."
– Married 25 years
"As guys, we don't know how to access our emotions. Heart iQ made it safe for me to go there, and it changed everything in my marriage."
– Marc, California
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The Invitation

Step Into a New Paradigm of Love & Connection

Something deeper is calling the two of you. A longing for the closeness you felt at the start, and that can be harder to reach now. For a relationship that doesn't just function, but truly feels alive. This retreat is an invitation to come back to each other, and to experience what becomes possible when both your hearts lead the way.

What's Really Going On

All Trauma Was Created in Relationship

The patterns that keep you stuck, such as the walls, the withdrawing, and the arguments that go in circles, didn't begin in your current relationships. They began in your earliest ones. And if left unattended, they create dissonance, disconnection, and a quiet loneliness that no amount of “working on yourself” alone can resolve. The truth is: what was wounded in relationship needs relationship to heal.

The Homecoming

Remember What Your Heart Already Knows

Heart iQ doesn't teach you something new. It returns you to something you've always known. Through circle work, embodied practices, and the transformative power of authentic connection, you'll drop beneath the surface and into the core truth of who you are. This retreat gives you the space, the tribe, and the lived experience to create lasting shifts that integrate into the fabric of your daily life and every relationship in it.

Who Is It For

This Retreat Is for The Two of You If…

Thriving, and Hungry for More

Your relationship is good, and you sense it could be extraordinary. You want to keep growing toward each other rather than drifting into autopilot, and to build the kind of intimacy that deepens with the years instead of fading.

Feeling the Distance

Life, work, and everything in between have pulled you into parallel lives. The closeness is quieter than it was. You want to find your way back to each other and remember what brought you together in the first place.

Doing the Repair Work

You've moved through hard things, perhaps a rupture in trust, and you're both committed to healing it. You want a safe, held space and real tools to rebuild and reconnect, not just talk in circles.

What Is Heart iQ?

Up-Level Your Connection to Unparalleled Heights

Love, Relationships & You is Heart iQ's signature retreat and a groundbreaking journey into the transformative power of circle work, authentic connection, and collective healing.

Our approach is holistic: a blend of challenging and deeply rejuvenating experiences. It's about diving into the essence of your being, fully inhabiting your body to unearth your truest expression. We don't skim the surface. We go to the depths, seeking the core truths of how you relate to yourself and others.

You'll upgrade your relationship toolkit with robust communication skills and embodied connection practices. You'll nourish and awaken parts of yourself that have been dormant. And you'll experience the power of tribe, the nourishing, supportive feeling of being held by people who can feel you in ways you may not even be able to feel yourself.

Whether you're thriving and want more, feeling the distance, or rebuilding after something hard, this retreat meets you exactly where you are as a couple. The practices adapt to your unique rhythm together, creating lasting shifts that seamlessly integrate into your relationship and the fabric of your daily life.

Heart iQ — man leaning back in surrender, held by the circle
Christian Pankhurst teaching at Heart iQ retreat
"When we communicate the real thing instead of the right thing, we end up communicating our authentic essence and heart."
– Christian Pankhurst
Christian Pankhurst — Heart iQ founder and retreat facilitator
Your Facilitator

Christian Pankhurst

"When we communicate the real thing instead of the right thing, we end up communicating our authentic essence and heart."

Christian is the founder of Heart iQ and the author of Insights to Intimacy. Over the past 20+ years, he has developed a multi-level communication system that integrates words, body language, energy, emotions, and spirit. It is a language of the heart that transforms how humans relate to themselves, each other, and the world.

Through direct observation of thousands of group interactions during his retreats across 30+ countries, Christian began to see the hidden patterns of connection and conflict that show up in every kind of relationship. He translated these dynamics into a practical, embodied language that anyone can learn.

His work has touched 5,000+ lives, and this retreat is the distilled essence of everything he teaches. It is the foundational training for anyone who wants to relate more authentically.

"Christian Pankhurst knows how to articulate these messages as well as, if not better than I can. He is a profound source of wisdom and depth."
– Neale Donald Walsch, NY Times Best-Selling Author
Your Co-Facilitators

Meet the Team

Stephanie Fabela

Stephanie Fabela

Co-Facilitator, Europe

Stephanie brings over two decades of study in somatic healing, energy work, and personal development. One of the first Heart iQ graduates in 2012, she served as Director of Programs and Education and continues to train and mentor facilitators as a core part of the team. She brings a wise, elder presence to the circle, embodying tribal leadership and offering deep, intuitive guidance to the community.

Sumir

Sumir

Co-Facilitator, United States

Sumir is a Certified Heart iQ Facilitator and Founder of The Golden Path. Immersed in Heart iQ work since 2014, she co-designed the Heart iQ Academy 90-Day Challenge and facilitates men's and women's events. Her facilitation style emphasises a fierce, tender presence that channels unwavering holding in the container.

Your Investment Includes

What's Included

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3 Full Days of Retreat

Deep immersion in Heart iQ practices, including circle work, embodiment, and relational practices guided by Christian and the team.

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All Meals Included

A nourishing meal package throughout the retreat so you can stay present and held without worrying about food.

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Retreat Materials

All teaching materials and practice guides to continue your Heart iQ journey after the retreat.

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Intimate Group Container

A carefully held space with a small group of committed individuals. No mass events, no surface-level work.

Please note: Accommodation is not included in the ticket price. For New Eden (Netherlands), after registration you will receive a link to book your food package and accommodation at the venue, with options for single rooms, shared rooms, or camping. For Casa Sagrada (Colorado), accommodation is not available at the venue. Hotels and Airbnbs are available nearby in Loveland.

Two Locations, One Transmission

Choose Your Retreat

Both events are facilitated by Christian Pankhurst and offer the same depth of Heart iQ transmission. Choose the location that calls to you.

Heart iQ circle at New Eden, Netherlands
Europe

New Eden, Netherlands

October 1 – 4, 2026
  • 3 full days of Heart iQ immersion
  • All meals included (meal package)
  • Intimate group size for deep work
  • After registration you'll receive a link to book food, accommodation (single room, shared room, or camping)
  • Investment: from €500 EUR (pay what feels right)
Heart iQ retreat at Casa Sagrada — Christian facilitating in the venue
United States

Casa Sagrada, Loveland, Colorado

November 5 – 8, 2026
  • 3 full days of Heart iQ immersion
  • All meals included (meal package)
  • Intimate group size for deep work
  • Accommodation is not available at the venue. Hotels and Airbnbs are available nearby in Loveland, Colorado
  • Investment: from $500 USD (pay what feels right)
Heart iQ retreat — a couple in process with Christian
Heart iQ retreat — deep listening between partners
Heart iQ participants — hand on heart, presence
Heart iQ — tender embrace
Heart iQ — fierce presence
Real Couples. Real Transformation.

Hear It From Those Who've Lived It

Couples share what happened when they brought Heart iQ into their relationship, filmed at our live immersion.

"One of the most profound personal development experiences in eighteen years."
– Mathias
"It's like running next to your train your whole life and then finally getting on it."
– LRY Graduate
"We shared things with each other we'd never shared in seventeen years of marriage."
– Andrea
What You'll Learn

Self Connection Practices

Over three days, you'll be guided through a progressive series of personal, relational and circle practices designed to deepen your connection to yourself, others, and life itself.

01

Track Your Inner World

Gain insight into resistance to joy, the thoughts and judgments keeping you from loving what is alive in you, and the hidden patterns running your relationships.

02

Increase Capacity

Expand the bandwidth you have available to stay connected before being triggered into collapse, fight, or flight. Build the nervous system resilience to hold more.

03

Amplify Presence

An integrated practice of breath, grounding, energetically holding space, and meeting the moment with an open heart. Fully here, fully you.

04

Raise Consciousness

Become aware of multiple layers of your experience, including defense mechanisms, shadows, and blind spots, and learn to navigate them with compassion.

05

Become Embodied

Bring awareness into your body. Deepen your connection to movement, breath, sound and touch as gateways to authentic self-expression.

06

Detoxify the BodyMind

Cleanse your emotional and energetic bodies from the toxic buildup of repressed pain, unexpressed grief, and held tension that blocks your aliveness.

07

Manage Energy, Trigger & Trauma

Learn to hold all parts of yourself in love and navigate triggers more effectively, without shutting down or acting out.

What You'll Learn

Relational & Circle Practices

Relational

Heart Intelligent Relating

Learn to communicate what is real rather than what is right. Drop the masks, the performance, and the people-pleasing, and meet others from your genuine heart.

Relational

Conscious Conflict

Navigate disagreements while staying connected to your heart. Conflict isn't the enemy of intimacy. Avoidance is. Learn to stay open when it matters most.

Relational

Intimacy & Trust

Rebuild trust and open to deeper intimacy safely. Whether with a partner, a friend, or yourself, intimacy requires a felt sense of safety that you can learn to create.

Relational

The Relational Field

Feel and work with the energy between you and others. Learn to read the invisible dynamics in any relationship and bring consciousness to what's really happening beneath the words.

Circle

Heart iQ Circle Work

Experience the power of doing your inner work held by community. The circle is the container for transformation, where your heart finally gets to be witnessed.

Circle

Collective Healing

Witness how individual healing ripples through the group. When one person has the courage to go deep, everyone in the circle receives the gift of that opening.

Circle

We Are Each Other's Medicine

The circle as a living, breathing organism of mutual support. Your presence, your story, and your heart are the medicine that others need, just as theirs is yours.

"I took away that it can be joyful to work on your stuff. Not heavy. Joyful. I'm taking home a clear and constant heart, and tools to make a good relationship great."
– Heart iQ Graduate
Heart iQ — group held on the floor
Heart iQ — women resting, being held
Heart iQ — standing circle connection
Heart iQ — couple process with Christian
What People Say

Voices from the Heart

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We came as a couple married 25 years, thinking we knew everything about each other. We left knowing we'd barely scratched the surface. Heart iQ gave us a way to truly hear each other, not just the words, but what lives underneath them.
Judith & Graham Married 25 years
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I arrived completely closed down. By the end of the first day, something in me had cracked open that no amount of therapy had ever reached. Heart iQ works on a level I didn't even know existed.
Kamila
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As a man, I'd spent my whole life avoiding vulnerability. This retreat showed me that vulnerability isn't weakness. It's the gateway to everything I've been looking for in my relationships.
Chris Jones
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I came for my relationship and left with a completely new relationship to myself. The tools I learned at this retreat have become my daily practice. They've changed how I parent, how I love, and how I live.
Heather Rizzo
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The circle work was extraordinary. To be held so deeply by people I'd only just met restored my faith in humanity. I left knowing that real community is possible.
Jane Cormack
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Heart iQ is the missing piece. Everything I'd learned in books and courses clicked into place when I experienced it in my body, in circle, in real time. This is what transformation actually feels like.
Beverley Killian-Richardson
Questions & Answers

Frequently Asked

Do I need any previous Heart iQ experience? ▾

No. Love, Relationships & You is designed for both newcomers and experienced practitioners. Whether this is your first encounter with Heart iQ or you've been on the journey for years, the retreat meets you exactly where you are. Many people attend this as their entry point into Heart iQ.

Is this right for us as a couple? ▾

Yes. This retreat is for couples at any stage: thriving and wanting to go deeper, feeling the distance and wanting to reconnect, or rebuilding after something hard. You'll learn a shared language for relating from the heart, not just the head, and practise it side by side. Heart iQ is a relational training, so the skills strengthen every other relationship in your life too, but here you do the work together, as a couple.

Do we both need to register? ▾

Yes. Each of you registers and holds your own place, and the pay-what-feels-right contribution (from €500/$500) is per person. You'll move through the retreat together and each have your own experience in the circle. Wanting to explore on your own first? The individual version of this retreat is for you.

What does "pay what feels right" mean? ▾

We believe this work should be accessible. The minimum investment is €500/$500, which covers your retreat and meals. You're invited to contribute above the minimum, whatever feels aligned for you and honours the value of the experience. There is no upper limit.

What about accommodation? ▾

For New Eden (Netherlands), after registration you will receive a link to book your food package and accommodation at the venue. Options include single rooms, shared rooms, or camping. For Casa Sagrada (Colorado), accommodation is not available at the venue. You will need to book a hotel or Airbnb nearby in Loveland. We will send recommendations after registration.

What's the daily schedule like? ▾

Each day typically runs from morning to evening with breaks for meals and integration. You'll move through a blend of circle work, embodiment practices, relational exercises, and teaching. The schedule is held with care, intense enough to create real transformation and spacious enough to process and integrate.

Can I attend both retreats? ▾

Yes! Each retreat is a complete experience, and attending both would deepen your practice significantly. They are held in different locations with different energies. If you'd like to attend both, simply register for each one separately.

Christian Pankhurst teaching at Heart iQ retreat
"Heart iQ is highly intuitive. It's a language you already know deep down, but to which you have lost access."
– Christian Pankhurst
Secure Your Place

Register for the Retreat

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Pick the edition that fits you. The next page is where you choose your contribution and complete your booking.

Your Heart Already Knows

This retreat is an invitation to come home to yourself, to your heart, and to the relationships that matter most. If you feel called, trust that.

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Terms & Conditions

Payment Terms

Full payment is due at the time of registration. Your place is confirmed upon receipt of payment. All prices are listed in the currency of the event location (EUR for Netherlands, USD for Colorado).

What's Included

Your ticket includes full access to all three days of the retreat plus a meal package covering all meals during the event. Accommodation is not included and must be arranged separately. Detailed accommodation options will be provided after registration.

Cancellation & Refund Policy

  • 60+ days before the event: Full refund minus a 10% administration fee, issued as a credit voucher for any future Heart iQ event.
  • Within 60 days of the event: Non-refundable. Your ticket may be transferred to another person (see below).
  • No-shows: Non-refundable.

Ticket Transfers

If you are unable to attend, you may transfer your ticket to another person. Transfer requests must be submitted at least 7 days before the event and are subject to approval. Please contact us at [email protected] to arrange a transfer.

Participation & Conduct

Heart iQ reserves the right to deny admission or remove any participant whose behaviour is disruptive, unsafe, or in violation of the event agreements. No refund will be issued in such cases.

By attending, you agree to:

  • Be fully present and engaged during sessions
  • Respect the confidentiality of all participants
  • Maintain consent-based interaction at all times
  • Refrain from alcohol and recreational substances during the event
  • Follow the guidance of the facilitation team
  • Take responsibility for your own physical and emotional wellbeing

Consent & Release

This event is educational and experiential in nature. It is not therapy, medical treatment, or a substitute for professional mental health support. Participation is entirely voluntary. You are free to step back from any exercise at any time.

By registering, you release and hold harmless Heart iQ Network LLC, its facilitators, staff, and affiliates from any and all liability, claims, or damages arising from your participation, except in cases of gross negligence.

Recording & Media

Heart iQ may photograph, film, or audio-record portions of the event for safety, training, and promotional purposes. By attending, you consent to the use of your likeness in Heart iQ media unless you notify us in writing before the event.

Force Majeure

In the event of circumstances beyond our control (natural disasters, pandemic restrictions, venue issues, etc.), Heart iQ reserves the right to reschedule, relocate, or move the event online. We strongly recommend purchasing travel insurance.

Governing Law

These terms are governed by the laws of the State of Colorado, USA (for Casa Sagrada events) or the laws of the Netherlands (for New Eden events).

By checking the box above, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agree to these terms.

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