What is your Shadow?

Your shadows are the qualities that you don't want to be seen in by others.
Owning your shadows brings you into wholeness as you accept the full range that makes you human.
Nearly all relational trigger emerges from dis-owned shadows hence a big part of Emotional Hygiene and thus Heart iQ, is to become conscious of these parts.
This first video is a quick summary explaining what Shadow is...
The Shadow House Analogy
One of the best ways to understand shadow and your S.T.U.A.R.T (and the relationship they have to each other) is through the Shadow House Analogy.
Watch this entertaining video to learn more.
In this analogy, the house is you, the guests are those you love, the room upstairs is your shadow and the guard and locks in front of this room are your S.T.U.A.R.T.
For a little more explanation of the difference between your S.T.U.A.R.T and Shadow, watch this short video...
How to Access Your Shadow?
If you notice a quality in another that triggers you, it usually indicates a shadow range that you yourself are not good with or have not fully accepted.
Also, if you spend energy trying to be 'good' or to be seen in a specific way, it can indicate a shadow that you are trying to avoid being.
Watch this video for a quick tip to access your shadows.
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