Heart iQ is a practice for cultivating self-love and intimacy without needing to dig through every layer of your past.
The teaching explores how a sense of unworthiness can shape the way someone relates to themselves and others. Christian asks what happens when attention also goes towards the qualities a person values and wants to practise.
Heart iQ works with an ecstatic healing model rather than a purely analytical one. The aim isn't to dig up who did what, when, and why. Instead, participants practice opening: breathing more, expanding more, connecting more, expressing more, being witnessed. Over time this makes clear where the most energy has become trapped, whether in grief, anger, unfelt shame or the parts of ourselves learned to hide because showing them once felt dangerous.
Think of it as emotional yoga, not a single fix but something practiced regularly, in the way exercise or good nutrition require consistency rather than a one-off treatment.
Beginning with what is already available
I draw on my earlier work as a chiropractor to explain a change in my thinking. I became interested in attending to places of ease and receptivity, alongside the places where someone was struggling.
In the recording, I describe a personal experience of network care that influenced this orientation. I felt movement and emotion in my body and began to think differently about where to start. That account is a personal influence on my facilitation, rather than evidence for a treatment mechanism.
The question I bring into Heart iQ is where a person already has some resource: an experience of connection, a quality they appreciate, or enough ease to feel something new. Paying attention there can change the starting point of a conversation.
The balloon in the box
A simple image describes this: imagine a box with a finite amount of space, and two balloons inside it, one representing your goodness and essence, the other representing your unworthiness, your stories of not being enough. Whichever balloon you blow into harder takes up more of the space. For most of us, the unworthiness balloon has had years of practice and has grown strong lungs, while the goodness balloon is small and underused. Two things cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Grow your goodness and it becomes what runs your life. Grow your fear and that becomes what runs your life instead.
The balloon is a metaphor for attention and practice. I also describe the support of a group as something that can make a new experience more available. Keeping it part of daily life asks for continued practice; it is not a one-off cure.
Making room for difficulty
Beginning with resource does not mean refusing to hear pain. It means considering what support a person has available as they approach it, and recognising when other forms of help are needed.
Where attention goes
A familiar difficulty
The wound, story or pattern a person already knows well.
An available resource
A quality, connection or moment of ease that may support a different response.
