The Heart iQ Blog
Reflections from Christian on relationships, circle work and the practice of living from the heart.
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Video · 14:39A Need That Runs So Deep, It Has No Name...
Christian recalls a 2006 retreat where individual sharing became a felt collective experience, and explores the personal work underlying that connection.
Video · 13:54Turning Pain into Purpose, Wounding into Art
Coaching examples explore the protective intention beneath a disowned trait, while distinguishing that intention from harmful behaviour.
Video · 22:39The Art of Ecstatic Touch with Lara Kolesar
Christian talks with bodyworker Lara Kolesar about how touch, safety and nervous system awareness can help people reconnect with their aliveness rather than fighting their own resistance.
Video · 3:47The Key to Liberation is Embracing Your Shadows
Christian explains shadow work through the Shadow House Analogy, showing how disowned parts of ourselves get guarded by our STUART and why integrating rather than eliminating them brings wholeness.
Video · 13:24How To Heal Trauma Through Divine Relaxation
A recorded exploration of presence, gentle movement and naming sensation, with notes on the distinction between a moment of release and a familiar pattern of tension.
Video · 6:51Why Men Need to Access Their Inner Beast For Relationships to Work
One couple describe their experience of embodiment practice, alongside Christian’s distinction between feeling raw energy and expressing it with care.
Video · 22:10Build a Strong Container To Go Deep
Christian explains sacred relationship agreements from a 2015 retreat, covering joy as shared purpose, presence over fixing, avoiding absolutes, accountability boundaries, and closing relationships consciously before beginning new ones.
Video · 27:24Meet Maanee & Christian
Maanee Chrystal and Christian Pankhurst discuss how shadow work, somatic awareness and group witnessing combine to help people integrate hidden or exiled parts of themselves.
Video · 19:02Make Your Relationships Thrive!
Christian outlines six relational habits, including redefining joy, building safety through self-acceptance, and speaking from the heart, as awareness practices for deepening connection.
Video · 21:22Heal Your Heart, Change Your Life
Christian explains why healing begins with loving what is, distinguishes joy from happiness, and shows how invasive and neglectful wounding both create the walls that block intimacy.
Video · 62:11What's Getting in the Way of Living Your Purpose?
Christian and Rick explore how leaning only on cathartic release or only on stoic endurance can block a person's purpose, and why real mentorship depends on becoming visible enough to be met.
Video · 23:344 Essential Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship
Christian outlines four containers that shape relationship health: self-intimacy, the shared bubble with a partner, brotherhood or sisterhood, and belonging to a wider tribe or community.