The Heart iQ Blog
Reflections from Christian on relationships, circle work and the practice of living from the heart.
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VideoHow To Feel Safe So You Can Live Your Full Potential
A distinction between comfort, felt safety and practical support, with gentle observation prompts and notes for facilitators.
VideoHow to Ask For What You Really Want
A teaching on making specific requests, respecting a no and receiving support, with live circle demonstrations of asking and being witnessed.
VideoWhy We Need Others to Heal, Awaken and Thrive
Christian explores interdependence, being witnessed and listening to individual needs within a group, illustrated through teaching and live circle demonstrations.
VideoHow to be More Vulnerable with Those You Love
Christian explains why vulnerability feels safer alone than with a loved one, and shows how naming a need for safety, rather than forcing openness, allows real intimacy to develop.
VideoSomatic Tracking - Returning to the Body
Christian explains somatic tracking as the practice of noticing sensation, feeling, and the stories layered on top of them, using the body as an anchor for honest connection.
Video · 10:31The Secret To Sustainable Change
Christian explains tracking as the internal practice of noticing what is actually moving within us, distinguishing it from reading others, and demonstrates it live with a participant working through a limiting belief.
VideoThe One Relationship Factor That Changes Everything
Christian explains why a couple's intimacy is shaped not just by the two people involved but by their inner world, their shared container, their family history and the community around them.
VideoHow to Feel Good Feeling Bad
Christian explains Heart iQ Tracking, a practice of noticing both what you're feeling and the judgments you carry about it, and how naming both together turns resistance into a felt sense of ease.
Video · 28:06How to Take Inspired Action (Even When You're Terrified)
Christian explains why waiting to feel ready keeps people stuck, and how a felt sense of safety, not fearlessness, allows imperfect action to move a life forward.
Video · 7:48Couples Going Wild On The Mat
Christian reflects on footage of couples moving from verbal miscommunication into embodied connection during an Insights to Intimacy retreat, showing how sound, movement and play can open honesty that words alone struggle to reach.
Video · 76:14How I Got Initiated into Circle Work
Christian recounts his first clash and eventual friendship with Heart Circle founder Tej Steiner, describing how a confrontational facilitation style gave way to learning the Heart Circle model.
How To Be Happy, Even When Everything Feels Like It's Falling Apart
An introduction to joy in the Heart iQ approach, meeting disowned feelings, learning in a group and bringing the practice into everyday relationships.