The Heart iQ Blog
Reflections from Christian on relationships, circle work and the practice of living from the heart.
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Video · 11:32Is Catharsis Healthy?
Christian questions catharsis for its own sake, reflects on his own family history, and explains why choice, accurate attention and a slower pace matter in circle.
Video · 95:00What I Would Do Differently If I Were 25 Again
Christian looks back at the choices that shaped his path from chiropractic student to messenger, entrepreneur and mentor, weighing what he'd repeat and what cost him too much.
Video · 13:13How to Heal Trauma Without Digging Up Your Past
Christian reflects on support after a frightening experience, the difference between love and attunement, and beginning relational practice in the present.
Video · 27:07How Are You Showing Up in The World?
Christian breaks down how honest feedback depends on first knowing your own truth, then explains the etiquette of asking, sharing and receiving reflection without triggering defence.
Video · 16:18Introduction to the Gestalt Process in Heart iQ Mat Work
Christian introduces the classic Gestalt process adapted for Heart iQ circles, explaining how it helps clients externalise incomplete relationships and reclaim their power through role-play rather than an empty chair.
Video · 21:43What is a Heart iQ Village?
Christian distinguishes the physical infrastructure of intentional community from the relational culture that makes it work, describing Heart iQ as the operating system that helps people live together well.
Video · 6:51Judgements: What I don't like in you, I don't like in me
Christian introduces a practice for examining judgements and taking ownership of projection, followed by Shalini Tewari’s account of trying it in a group.
Video · 4:36Resolve Conflict by Sharing Withholds
Christian explains that a withhold is an unspoken truth held back from fear, and that sharing it with care and responsibility can dissolve tension and restore closeness in relationships.
Video · 6:20Healing Generational Shame, Pain & Trauma
Christian explains generational trauma as inherited shame and pain absorbed in early childhood, and describes a group ritual for identifying and releasing inherited parts that are not truly our own.
Video · 3:33Experiencing Unity Through Shadow Work
Christian describes shadow work as tracking the hidden or unconscious parts of ourselves and sharing them safely with others to reclaim repressed life force and deepen authentic connection.
Video · 6:12Relationship Patterns: Taking Responsibility Together
A practice for recognising your own part in a recurring relationship pattern, with Shalini Tewari’s account of a conversation that helped both partners reconnect.
Video · 40:33Awakened Living and Healing Trauma: An Interview with Diana Lockett
Christian discusses why awakening work must include trauma healing, describing group dynamics, the New Age bypass, and why healing is an ongoing rather than finished process.